Greetings!
My well meaning wife and daughter decided to surprise me with a new phone for Christmas and went to e-bay

to a supposedly reputable vendor who sold them a T Mobile 7100 Blackberry which came with 2 batteries and a recharger. But no software (I mean nothing - not even a single game!) and no manuals.
I quite like the keypad and the diary

but I have no way of transferring pictures or mp3 files or anything.

I want to be able to have my own song excerpts for my ring tones and I want to be able to install a java Bible as an application - at least! Being able to update my diary on a PC would be wonderful as well.
I eventually found and downloaded Blackberry's official "Desktop manager 4.7" My phone said on the screen that it was connected to the Desktop but the DM could not detect the phone.
Please somebody tell me - Can I transfer files and apps (even a KJV jar) to and from my phone? Where can I get the software?